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Title: My wife has passed away.
Post by: steamteck on February 26, 2014, 09:39:37 PM
I've been around for a while here on and off but not a big name. Still I have always felt at home here so I'm going to share.

Last month my wife got nausea that just didn't seem to want to go away. She had trouble eating most solid foods but we didn't think it was a big deal. We had lost our insurance due to affordable health care act and had about a two week down time before the new one kicked in. She seemed to improve then it returned so we made an appointment for the next Monday when the insurance kicked in . MY wife being Scottish simply wouldn't go in earlier. On Saturday morning she could neither speak or rise. She died less than 24 hours later of septic shock for a pancreas infection.

We had been married for 30 years and been friends since meeting at the science fiction club in college in 76. The things we didn't both enjoy together could be counted on 1/2 of one hand. We have four wonderful kids, one of which is grown who are all superhero, SF and fantasy geeks.
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Post by: MJB on February 26, 2014, 10:10:26 PM
That is horrible. I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Glitch Girl on February 26, 2014, 10:17:09 PM
I am very sorry to hear this Steamteck.  My prayers go out to you and your family.
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Post by: President Raygun on February 26, 2014, 11:33:46 PM
So very sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.
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Post by: TAP43 on February 26, 2014, 11:39:27 PM
I am truly sorry for you and your families loss and I will say a prayer for you.
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Post by: Cyber Burn on February 27, 2014, 12:25:18 AM
I am so sorry for your loss, I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Post by: spydermann93 on February 27, 2014, 12:37:04 AM
I am terribly sorry for your loss, steamteck. :(

I wish you and your children the very best and I hope that you guys will stay strong through this.
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Post by: BentonGrey on February 27, 2014, 12:45:25 AM
I don't have the words to express my sorrow for your loss, Steamteck.  My heart breaks for you.  The Grey household will keep you and your family in our prayers.  We are here for you, as much as we can be.
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Post by: steamteck on February 27, 2014, 12:46:43 AM
Thanks everyone. We have come together and her siblings have been very supportive. Truth is, I've lived so long with the world filtered through the reality of the both of us as a unit I feel kind of lost. This is one of my "safe" places to visit though and gives me comfort.
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Post by: laughing paradox on February 27, 2014, 12:57:21 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My sincere condolences.
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Post by: Uncle Yuan on February 27, 2014, 02:51:50 AM
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.  My deepest condolences.
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Post by: Podmark on February 27, 2014, 02:53:13 AM
This is terrible news, Steamteck. I am so sorry for your loss. Know that you will always have a place here.
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Post by: Outcast on February 27, 2014, 03:04:24 AM
Condolences to you and your family, Steamteck.
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Post by: Thunder on February 27, 2014, 03:11:47 AM
All the thoughts and prayers that I can give, I send your way.  It's rare to find someone who completes you. My deepest sympathies.
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Post by: Talavar on February 27, 2014, 04:02:24 AM
All our thoughts are with you in this worst of times.  For whatever it's worth, our deepest sympathies.
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Post by: catwhowalksbyhimself on February 27, 2014, 10:30:51 AM
Very sorry to hear of your loss.  My best feeling and prayers to you and your children in this time of sorrow.
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Post by: Reepicheep on February 27, 2014, 11:13:29 AM
I'm so sorry, Steamteck. You have my deepest condolences.
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Post by: thalaw2 on February 27, 2014, 02:03:15 PM
I'm very truly sorry for your loss.  I can't imagine what you're going through, but I'm sure touched and honored that you would share this with us.  My deepest condolences. 
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Post by: steamteck on February 27, 2014, 06:33:46 PM
Quote from: Thunder on February 27, 2014, 03:11:47 AM
All the thoughts and prayers that I can give, I send your way.  It's rare to find someone who completes you. My deepest sympathies.

So very true. Its hard to explain but its like she was the filter through which I saw the world. Everything I like has a little of her stamp on it in my mind.

You know, She always loved the skins and meshes you guys came up with and we used them as images and names for our pen and paper superhero game. My older kids want me to keep running the game  ( same game world since the early 80s) and run it for them and their friends as well as my older crowd. It reminds me so much of her but I think she would have liked all these characters she helped create often from your wonderful images and names being introduced to a new generation.
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Post by: daglob on February 27, 2014, 11:34:21 PM
There are no words to express the sorrow.
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Post by: Alaric on February 28, 2014, 01:56:35 AM
I'm very sorry. You have my deepest condolences.
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Post by: DrMike2000 on February 28, 2014, 08:02:44 AM
I'm so sorry to hear that.  I can only imagine how devastating this is, and wish you strength and love to get through this.
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Post by: crimsonquill on March 01, 2014, 10:10:19 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear about this horrible news. You have my deepest condolences and my prayers are with you and your family.

- CQ
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Post by: Lionheart on March 01, 2014, 03:23:57 PM
I'm sorry for your loss, Steamteck. My family will be praying for yours.
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Post by: Xenolith on March 01, 2014, 07:00:28 PM
I don't know what to say. I'm very sorry for you and your family.
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Post by: Uncle Yuan on March 03, 2014, 12:23:16 AM
Quote from: steamteck on February 27, 2014, 06:33:46 PM
Quote from: Thunder on February 27, 2014, 03:11:47 AM
All the thoughts and prayers that I can give, I send your way.  It's rare to find someone who completes you. My deepest sympathies.

So very true. Its hard to explain but its like she was the filter through which I saw the world. Everything I like has a little of her stamp on it in my mind.

You know, She always loved the skins and meshes you guys came up with and we used them as images and names for our pen and paper superhero game. My older kids want me to keep running the game  ( same game world since the early 80s) and run it for them and their friends as well as my older crowd. It reminds me so much of her but I think she would have liked all these characters she helped create often from your wonderful images and names being introduced to a new generation.

What a cool tribute to your wife! I can see how that might be a hard thing to do right now, but I can't think of a better way to keep her memory alive, especially for your kids!
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Post by: steamteck on March 03, 2014, 12:57:42 AM
Thanks, I thought so but its sometimes hard to tell about these things. My oldest daughter is really excited about the whole thing.  She wants several groups including one where the old and young play together.
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Post by: Lionheart on March 03, 2014, 10:48:09 PM
Quote from: steamteck on March 03, 2014, 12:57:42 AM
Thanks, I thought so but its sometimes hard to tell about these things. My oldest daughter is really excited about the whole thing.  She wants several groups including one where the old and young play together.

If your game is something that brings joy, closeness, and loving remembrance to you and your family, it seems like it is a good thing.
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Post by: bdrake on March 04, 2014, 12:21:34 AM
although i dont know you personally my prayers are with you
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Post by: stumpy on March 05, 2014, 08:24:41 AM
I am so sorry, Steamteck.

Maintaining those things she enjoyed and that others enjoyed with her is a very positive way to honor her.

BTW, when I was new at FR, we were both posting in a thread in the comics forum about the comeback of some aspects of Silver Age Superman. I remember thinking at the time what a cool place this was and how much fun was to be had discussing superheroes with folks like you.
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Post by: steamteck on March 05, 2014, 12:53:57 PM
Quote from: stumpy on March 05, 2014, 08:24:41 AM
I am so sorry, Steamteck.

Maintaining those things she enjoyed and that others enjoyed with her is a very positive way to honor her.

BTW, when I was new at FR, we were both posting in a thread in the comics forum about the comeback of some aspects of Silver Age Superman. I remember thinking at the time what a cool place this was and how much fun was to be had discussing superheroes with folks like you.


It really is a cool place to discuss such things. Folks are so much friendlier and positive and tolerant than almost any other forum I've been on.  Thanks everyone for your support and prayers.

This game thing is really taken off. Apparently my game has some local fame but has been just for my small circle. Looks like I'll be running ar least three separate games. Everyone who's playing knew and liked her also. I'm actually feeling enthusiastic, which is good  for me these days.
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Post by: doctorchallenger on March 05, 2014, 02:37:29 PM
I am so sorry for youe loss, steamteck.

I am glad that you are able to take some small comfort during this time here. I took similar solace when my mother passed a few years ago. There are good people here. Again, my deepest sympahthies.
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Post by: cmdrkoenig67 on March 05, 2014, 07:50:29 PM
You have my condolences, Steam...I am really sorry to hear about your wife's passing.

Best,

Dana
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Post by: Epimethee on March 06, 2014, 07:54:12 PM
My sincerest condolences for this huge and shocking loss, Steamteck.
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Post by: Figure Fan on March 09, 2014, 07:29:27 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about this, Steamteck. I don't really know what to say...

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.